When I started this dating challenge it was really because I wanted my friend to get out there and meet a new guy. Don’t get me wrong I also hoped I would meet someone because my dating life has been rather nonexistent in recent months. But this week will mark two months into my challenge and I have to admit I have lost my motivation. It started cooling down a little bit finally and I really just want to cuddle up in a blanket on my couch with a fire and a good movie. Add in the holidays fast approaching and this mission is getting seriously derailed.
To catch up on my mission check out these posts:
I spent this past Saturday cleaning, getting my nails done, spending way too much at Target and napping. The week wiped me out and I was dying to recuperate. The last thing I wanted to do was get myself dressed up and go out looking for awkward situations to meet men in.
However, since I last updated you on my mission I did manage to have some opportunities to meet guys.
First off, I work in an environment where the majority of the people I interact with are men. Also, because I’m the person that pays the clients I think it makes them like me that much more. But really, I got asked out three times at work in the past couple weeks. Except one was the FedEx guy! And yes, it was as random as it sounds. I was walking through the parking lot at work and he stopped me. I guess everyone spends the majority of their time at work which could explain getting hit on the most at work. But part of me wonders if it’s the fact that I interact with these men, answer their payment and account questions and of course I am as friendly as can be at work because it is my job. Anyways, what I’m really getting at is that I probably am not as friendly anywhere else. In fact I know I spend a lot of my time avoiding eye contact so strangers won’t talk to me (they do a lot) and acting “aloof” or indifferent. Remember when I said I’m a mess around guys I think are cute? I usually won’t look at them and won’t speak to them. It’s because I’m nervous of course. I still remember a few years ago seeing a guy in this bar and telling my guy friend how cute he was. It just so happened my friend knew the guy he was with so he starts talking to them…And I sit there….silent…stricken with fear. When the guys left my friend said he had never seen me so quiet. I am smoooooth you guys! Clearly.
And when I’m not avoiding speaking to attractive men I’m busy avoiding eye contact with literally every one else.
I went on a date with one of the guys that asked me out, I politely declined the others. And by politely declined I mean I lied and said I was seeing someone because naturally, I avoid awkward situations like the plague.
My date went…fine. The guy that asked me out was a guy I had checked out before. He planned a great date! And I want to harp on the fact that HE PLANNED. I freaking love that. I hate when guys say well, what do you want to do? Well, what I want is for you to put some effort into this and come up with something for us to do. But I didn’t have to go through that with this guy. He planned out our date, it was so nice.
I hate awkward silences so I will talk for hours straight on dates if I feel I have no choice. Let me tell you, super nice guy, not very chatty. I talked a lot. It was draining. When I forgot to text him back the next day I sort of hoped he would take the hint and not pursue anything further. He didn’t though. Because life is never that easy right? But one of my pet peeves is spending a lot of time trying to think of a nice way to let someone down and then getting chewed out anyways. But after a couple more efforts on his part to get together again I decided I had no choice. I sent him a polite but upfront message. AND GUESS WHAT?!!! He did not chew me out! He was suuuuuper polite in return, said he had a great time getting to know me better and it was a pleasure taking me out. I mean for a minute I almost wanted to retract my text message. What a nice guy!!! I was so relieved. Seeeeeeeee, I knew there were good guys out there! This one wasn’t meant for me but he is going to be a phenomenal husband for someone else.
Skip forward to the next weekend. I went to a college football game and forgot I wasn’t 21 anymore. I went with some super fun girlfriends who are also single. We started our night off at the bar and I broke the cardinal rule and invited one of my guy friends to meet us there. I’m just so excited he moved back to town and I never go out so I had to invite him! Then the girls and I went to the game, spent most of it waiting in line and/or looking for my gf’s single guy friends. We ended up meeting up with them after the game. Had a lot of fun with them! No connections were made, but hey I made new friends and had a great time.
And then I seriously paid for it the next day. Massive migraine.
A reader pointed out that I’m really only giving myself 24 days since I only do things on the weekends (and I’ve already skipped a couple, oops.) Ya 24 days may make the challenge nearly impossible,but the first 16 have already made a serious improvement on my life. It has gotten me out of the house and helped me to connect with people I never would have otherwise. I’m having so much fun with it, even if I do want to stay home by the fire right now 😉